Society: Cook all the meals! Help with all the homework! Workout 5 days a week! Go to all the games! Sacrifice everything for your family! Your family is your life! Be a Supermom!
Me: Cereal for Dinner!!
I've been a mom for almost 16 years now, a wife for more than 11 years, and a business owner or over 10 years. And I've burned myself out time and time again working a 12-16 hour day and coming home to clean the house, feed everybody, spend quality time, etc. Only to turn around to do it again. Why? (I'll let you pick):
A. "That's how your mother did it."
B. People celebrate Supermoms! I want to be celebrated!
C. Because people are nosey and I don't want anyone talking about my parenting skills.
D. All of the above
If you chose any of them or D... you're right! That's because I've spent much of my life trying to live up to other people's expectations. At one point I was juggling a full-time job, a small business, a toddler and two school-agers, and was in year 5 of my marriage. As my business grew and my responsibilities away from home grew, I never thought to alter my role at home. I just figured I could it. And THAT, my sister, put me on a highway to burnout. I wish I could tell you I learned my lesson after one time. But this wouldn't be a very good story, now would it? Over the years, I burned out more times than I can count. But that's what led me to adopt an #antisupermom motto. Instead of a super mom, I just decided to be a Great Mom. Great moms still do their best for their families but without the unrealistic expectations of doing it all that lead to burnout.
Why is being a Supermom detrimental for your business? Simple. Because you can't do it all in your business either. You can't wear all the hats. You can't be all of the things. You must delegate. You might be good in sales but terrible in bookkeeping. Hire an accountant. You may be great in creating systems but marketing is daunting and making a graphic takes half a day. Feeling overwhelmed trying to do it all? Communicate. Delegate. Hire out.